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September 14, 2016

I was recently working out and in the reception area of the studio was a pillow that said, “Strong is the new skinny.” I initially liked the sentiment because I advocate for women focusing on what their bodies can do as opposed to how they look. I have gained a great deal of personal power from challenging my body and mind through exercise. As I thought about it more, I start to reflect on how I encourage my counseling clients to dedicate themselves to some type of exercise regiment for the benefit of their mental health. This rarely transfers out of the therapy session unless they previously had one. The research is overwhelming that exercise is one of the most important things that an individual can do to stabilize their emotional well-being, decrease depression and increase self-esteem. What I have found is the way to create a committed exercise practice is to go for a run or hit the gym because it will make you feel better mentally and emotionally. When the connection between exerc...

August 9, 2016

The decision to embark upon a divorce is laden with questions about what the future will look like. These unanswered questions often keep individuals from ending marriages because the fear of the unknown is immobilizing. The frequently referenced statistic in marriage counseling is that most people stay for approximately 5 years after their marriage is not longer salvageable. This statistic speaks to the intensity of fear and anxiety that accompany this life change. In fact, it may be one of the only times in life when a person knowingly chooses to put their life into a crisis state.

If fear is allowed to hide in the dark corner, it continues to build and grow. Regardless of your situation, divorce is associated with some level of shame. Feelings of failure, self-blame, anger, and disappointment create a fertile breeding ground for fear and shame to flourish. Fear and anxiety begin to diminish when you start the process of identification. By identifying your fears and acknowledging...

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Morristown, NJ 07960

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